Being in love is wild, breathtaking, infuriating. It is butterflies in your stomach when you think about your person, when you see them, when you hold them. It’s the electricity when your skin meets. It’s smiling at your person with wide eyes and an open heart and seeing them smile back at you in the same way. It’s wanting to hold someone’s hand, even when your hand is hot, a little sweaty. It’s lust and the heat of wanting, wanting, wanting. It’s seeing who someone truly is, the best and most terrible parts of them, and choosing not to look away from everything you see, actively embracing everything you see… It’s wanting to be the best version of yourself for your person but also for yourself, especially for yourself… It’s the pride you feel in their accomplishments and being as happy for their successes as you are for your own, if not more. It’s their hurts becoming your hurts… It’s a gut instinct. You just feel it. You know it in your bones. It isn’t perfect, not at all. It doesn’t need to be. It is, simply, what fills you up.

using this post as an easy place to put a message I’m sending to a friend, ideally I’ll have retooled this by the time anyone who is not Jess sees this but who knows

OK, getting back to you before I go to bed, apologies for the delay! So I think broadly for weekday evening get-togethers, I think they tend to be made of one or more of the following components:

this is for the 2025 UChicago Scav Hunt, specifically item

74. Your wife left you? Pathfinder fixes this. [2e points for showing us how]

If your wife left you IRL, Pathfinder lets you work through your emotions through roleplay, helps you build social skills, find new friends or even a new wife. Tabletop RPGs with a good group can be a great asset to your social and personal life, as can many things, the most important part is that putting yourself out there and letting yourself be vulnerable is important to grow and change into someone more capable of fostering a healthy relationship.

Here’s a list of the games I have, it should be more or less accurate.

Last updated: 2025-05-04

Hello!

If you’re here, it’s probably because I sent you here because I wanted to hang out with you at some point and it was useful to have a reusable list of stuff I like doing.

Things to know

• I’ll chat over text for a bit if it makes you more comfortable, but generally I’m more comfortable talking with my voice than I am over text, so I’m happy to jump into making plans quickly, or we can schedule a call if you don’t want to meet up IRL before significant conversation.